Three simple things to avoid in order to create a peaceful day of thanksgiving.
What to do about Uncle John?
Today is Thanksgiving … a day to celebrate family and life’s abundance … a holiday which generally starts out in the fantasy rooms of our minds and then, too often, tumbles into disappointment as our ideals and intentions go astray.
One of my new favorite newsletter authors, David Nemzoff who writes The Art of Unintended Consequences, prompted me to think about possible unintended consequences of this special holiday, in hopes that some of them can be avoided by a little thought about what we really want for this day. He has given us permission to share more of his thoughts about unintended consequences. So, don’t miss the Saturday post.
The three biggest causes of holiday disappointment.
OVERING. Too much. Too much cooking, eating/drinking, worrying (especially about too little), cleaning up. Too much expecting Hallmark perfection rather than appreciating the cracks and wrinkles, warts and grooves, the brilliant and doofant idiocyncrasies of ordinary people living ordinary lives. Overing stresses everyone.
UNDERING. Not being grateful for every moment of togetherness, every morsel of nourishment that spreads before us. Forgetting that this could be the last time we get to savor anything on the table, anyone sitting around, or under, the table, or even our own precious breath. No one knows when the next pandemic, hurricane, car wreck, or melt down of normal might happen. Undering steals our joy.
MIDDLING. Holding back, being stingy with our compliments, our words, our hearts. Not joining the laughter when silly Uncle John tells the same joke he told last year … and the year before. Not ignoring crazy Uncle John when he explains cancer causing windmills. Not hugging kind Uncle John who taught us how to ride a bike and who might not be here next year. Middling separates us.
If this reaches you on this day of feasting, may it help you find a path around the possible pitfalls of the day and take the gentle foot bridge of kindness and compassion to the other side.
May love warm you and yours, both inside and out.
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I hope they still make them. I have a stash from my days of facilitating creativity workshops. They're like pen-size Mr. Sketch scented markers. They're yummy, especially for mind mapping! I often had little kids approach me as I was mind mapping in airports, waiting for my flight. Sweet memories...
I just read your Journal Sandbox post and it made me want to go home RIGHT NOW and draw and color in my journal. Alas, I'm facilitating an IN-PERSON workshop this afternoon (only my second since Covid) so my journaling will have to wait. But my Fiddlestick pens are at the ready.