Currently, I have a supervisor who, in my opinion, goes overboard in expressing appreciation. I brought up to her the effusive praise (for just doing my part-time job). I learned that appreciation is her love language. You've now provided a phrase, Joyce, that allows me to express authentically my sentiments. It is indeed my pleasure to be of service to to support her overworked mental health team in taking much-deserved time off. BTW, I also use another tip you gave me many years ago. I operate on the theory that my colleague will appreciate a compliment if it's repeated to her by someone else.
Hola, Andrea ... so happy to have you join us! And what a lucky supervisor you have. I so remember the day you offered to support IN, sitting in front of a coffee shop on State Sreet. I was overjoyed and what a time we had. Hope you're thinking about writing on Substack. It's such a generous community of writers.
I am reminded of a phrase in Spanish, " a su ordenes", which translates, "at your service". It is also used as "you are welcome". Some think it is servile, I think it's gracious. 🙋
Thank you ... I like that one, too. Maybe it's about having a repertoire of responses and being able to use the one most appropriate for each instance.
Your friend, Barbara, sounds like a wonderful person. Thank you for sharing "it's my pleasure". That's a heartfelt way to reply.
My article 'I Don't Know What to Say; The Gift of Compliments, and Thank You' (https://kindnessmagnet.substack.com/p/i-dont-know-what-to-say-the-gift) talks about how many of us squirm when we receive the gift of a compliment. We humans are strange that way! I love Barbara's perspective that it's her pleasure. I'm going to add that to my replies and see how it feels! Thank you, Joyce.
That's interesting that they say we are first surprised, which then leads to 'self protection'. As I said, we humans are funny creatures! Thanks for the link. Good stuff!
As always, your take on gratitude is refreshing. You are right, people learn from seeing and even if the gratitude is not directed at them, it does make an impression in your general well-being. Interesting note, if someone in our area says, "My pleasure," our first internal thought is always, "did they used to work at Chick-Fil-A"? The response "My pleasure" is so ingrained in their automatic reactions from their time working there, that it becomes a part of their response lexicon.
Currently, I have a supervisor who, in my opinion, goes overboard in expressing appreciation. I brought up to her the effusive praise (for just doing my part-time job). I learned that appreciation is her love language. You've now provided a phrase, Joyce, that allows me to express authentically my sentiments. It is indeed my pleasure to be of service to to support her overworked mental health team in taking much-deserved time off. BTW, I also use another tip you gave me many years ago. I operate on the theory that my colleague will appreciate a compliment if it's repeated to her by someone else.
Hola, Andrea ... so happy to have you join us! And what a lucky supervisor you have. I so remember the day you offered to support IN, sitting in front of a coffee shop on State Sreet. I was overjoyed and what a time we had. Hope you're thinking about writing on Substack. It's such a generous community of writers.
I thoroughly enjoyed this post, with lots to consider. Thank you!!! 💜
I am reminded of a phrase in Spanish, " a su ordenes", which translates, "at your service". It is also used as "you are welcome". Some think it is servile, I think it's gracious. 🙋
Thank you ... I like that one, too. Maybe it's about having a repertoire of responses and being able to use the one most appropriate for each instance.
and maybe just to be more deliberate in how we respond to "thank you" instead of just being on auto-pilot and defaulting to "you're welcome".
Your friend, Barbara, sounds like a wonderful person. Thank you for sharing "it's my pleasure". That's a heartfelt way to reply.
My article 'I Don't Know What to Say; The Gift of Compliments, and Thank You' (https://kindnessmagnet.substack.com/p/i-dont-know-what-to-say-the-gift) talks about how many of us squirm when we receive the gift of a compliment. We humans are strange that way! I love Barbara's perspective that it's her pleasure. I'm going to add that to my replies and see how it feels! Thank you, Joyce.
Thanks, Heather, compliments are tricky ones. I'm going to check out your take on them.. This made me go to Google and I found a Harvard Business Review article that attributes it to our inherent surprise reaction. here's the article. https://hbr.org/2021/04/do-compliments-make-you-cringe-heres-why#:~:text=All%20this%20to%20say%2C%20many,words%20and%20gratitude%20of%20others.
That's interesting that they say we are first surprised, which then leads to 'self protection'. As I said, we humans are funny creatures! Thanks for the link. Good stuff!
As always, your take on gratitude is refreshing. You are right, people learn from seeing and even if the gratitude is not directed at them, it does make an impression in your general well-being. Interesting note, if someone in our area says, "My pleasure," our first internal thought is always, "did they used to work at Chick-Fil-A"? The response "My pleasure" is so ingrained in their automatic reactions from their time working there, that it becomes a part of their response lexicon.
Oh, David ... I didn't know that about Chick-Fil-A ... I'm going to have to ponder that for a bit. ;-)